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Why it might be wise to wait a little longer before telling him how you feel.
Picture this. You've been dating a new guy for a few weeks. Things are going amazingly well and you can't stop thinking about him. You connect on so many different levels and you just seem to get each other. He is exactly what you've been looking for in a man and, not only that, he exceeds your expectations.
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In other words, you're in love with him and you're wondering if you should tell him exactly how you feel. But before you go saying "I love you," there are a few things you should know about saying these three little words too soon and why it might be a good idea to hold your tongue for a while.
Saying "I love you" too early puts intense pressure on the relationship. Suddenly, you aren't just dating anymore — you're in love. It's more serious and often times, more limiting.
Along with love comes expectations that a new relationship might not be able to live up to. Love implies forever; but how do you know that you want to be with someone forever if you haven't even been together for a month? The 5 Most Common Dating Epiphanies [EXPERT]
Dating should be about working on getting to know each other and, most importantly, having fun. When you throw the word "love" into the equation, you force yourself and your partner to look ahead to the future. This may cause you to stop paying anymore attention to living in the moment and enjoying where you are in the present day.
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Love can't be rushed, no matter how soon you want to say it. It's important to keep in mind that just because you say it, doesn't mean your relationship will rise to the occasion.
I don't think "I love you" really implies forever. I suppose, in some respects, that being in love could be limiting but you probably wouldn't say it before you're 100% exclusive. At that point, I think it would be less limiting. Dropping the 143 (for some people) is a way for some people to affirm to themselves and not just their partner that they care for them tremendously and want them to feel safe and cherished.
SneakyGuy tom • 5 months ago
I agree. It neither implies nor means "forever." I don't know about anyone else. But personally, I can't say what kind of man I'd be 5 years from now. Likewise, I can't say what kind of woman a woman would be 5 years from now. Change is the only constant in the universe - which, at my age (62), makes me very skeptical of the committed "long term relationship." I "loved" my wife when I was 30. Twenty years later, she and I both realized we couldn't live peacefully under the same roof anymore. She didn't want to get a divorce, however, since she was in a personal "comfort zone." I did ... and so I divorced her (and have been glad I did ever since).
BTW, I didn't divorce her for another woman. I divorced her because our relationship became suffocating over the years. And on future relationships? Maybe - with the understanding that they will be day-to-day relationships. To my knowledge, no one is clairvoyant. I know I'm not.
Littlepearl1965 • 5 months ago
Just because a man says "I Love You" to me doesn't mean that he means it.
Many people throw the word Love around. It can mean different things to different people.
lisa shield • 5 months ago
I might be a bit old-fashioned, but I think it's best to let the guy say "I love you" first. As a woman, you can say things like, "I love hanging out with you," "I love your company," or "I love that look you get in your eye when you about to tell a joke," but I would let the guy saw the Big Three when he's ready.
Rebeca Kasak • a month ago
It's always too soon, especially if you have to ask yourself if it's too soon.
London Escorts • 5 months ago
I think that it's very easy to say "I Love You" but it's very difficult to maintain the love relationship. You should give some time to understand each other.
SneakyGuy London Escorts • 4 months ago
The "you should give some time to understand each other" idea is based on a false premise. It assumes that, at some point in time, feelings "freeze" into a constant that never changes. Unfortunately, people don't work that way. People change all the time. Sometimes, these changes can be profound and immediate. Sometimes, these changes occur so slowly that they're not noticed until the cumulative effect of several smaller changes coalesce into an epiphany.
Here's something to keep in mind. The idea of "marriage" comes from a notion that certain animal species mate for life. Human history has proven this notion to be false for humans. It wasn't all that long ago in human history when polygamy was the norm, not the exception. But even polygamy assumes a "commitment" based on that false notion. For example, wolves mate for life. This is a fact. It's also a fact that wolves "cheat" on their mates. But afterward, mates continue to stay together. Only one species I'm aware of seems to take cheating "personally" - the human species. But this is due to eons of religious brainwashing that taught us it SHOULD be taken personally (ie, "What God has joined together, let no man put asunder," from the traditional marriage vows). Other species aren't handicapped by this brainwashing and, therefore, don't consider the straying of mates as "cheating" to be taken personally ... but as just another fact of nature.
But if this isn't enough proof, consider the fact that 50% of all marriages today end in divorce. And also consider the fact that the remaining 50% who stay married aren't necessarily in a "happy" marriage. At the very least, this proves that any expression of "LOVE" is meant as a momentary expression ... that who you LOVE today may not be who you LOVE tomorrow. It also implies that the success of a long-term monogamous relationship is more a matter of "luck" than anything else.
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Why it might be wise to wait a little longer before telling him how you feel.
Picture this. You've been dating a new guy for a few weeks. Things are going amazingly well and you can't stop thinking about him. You connect on so many different levels and you just seem to get each other. He is exactly what you've been looking for in a man and, not only that, he exceeds your expectations.
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In other words, you're in love with him and you're wondering if you should tell him exactly how you feel. But before you go saying "I love you," there are a few things you should know about saying these three little words too soon and why it might be a good idea to hold your tongue for a while.
Saying "I love you" too early puts intense pressure on the relationship. Suddenly, you aren't just dating anymore — you're in love. It's more serious and often times, more limiting.
Along with love comes expectations that a new relationship might not be able to live up to. Love implies forever; but how do you know that you want to be with someone forever if you haven't even been together for a month? The 5 Most Common Dating Epiphanies [EXPERT]
Dating should be about working on getting to know each other and, most importantly, having fun. When you throw the word "love" into the equation, you force yourself and your partner to look ahead to the future. This may cause you to stop paying anymore attention to living in the moment and enjoying where you are in the present day.
More from YourTango: 3 Ways To Break Out Of Your Relationship Rut [EXPERT]
Love can't be rushed, no matter how soon you want to say it. It's important to keep in mind that just because you say it, doesn't mean your relationship will rise to the occasion.
I don't think "I love you" really implies forever. I suppose, in some respects, that being in love could be limiting but you probably wouldn't say it before you're 100% exclusive. At that point, I think it would be less limiting. Dropping the 143 (for some people) is a way for some people to affirm to themselves and not just their partner that they care for them tremendously and want them to feel safe and cherished.
SneakyGuy tom • 5 months ago
I agree. It neither implies nor means "forever." I don't know about anyone else. But personally, I can't say what kind of man I'd be 5 years from now. Likewise, I can't say what kind of woman a woman would be 5 years from now. Change is the only constant in the universe - which, at my age (62), makes me very skeptical of the committed "long term relationship." I "loved" my wife when I was 30. Twenty years later, she and I both realized we couldn't live peacefully under the same roof anymore. She didn't want to get a divorce, however, since she was in a personal "comfort zone." I did ... and so I divorced her (and have been glad I did ever since).
BTW, I didn't divorce her for another woman. I divorced her because our relationship became suffocating over the years. And on future relationships? Maybe - with the understanding that they will be day-to-day relationships. To my knowledge, no one is clairvoyant. I know I'm not.
Littlepearl1965 • 5 months ago
Just because a man says "I Love You" to me doesn't mean that he means it.
Many people throw the word Love around. It can mean different things to different people.
lisa shield • 5 months ago
I might be a bit old-fashioned, but I think it's best to let the guy say "I love you" first. As a woman, you can say things like, "I love hanging out with you," "I love your company," or "I love that look you get in your eye when you about to tell a joke," but I would let the guy saw the Big Three when he's ready.
Rebeca Kasak • a month ago
It's always too soon, especially if you have to ask yourself if it's too soon.
London Escorts • 5 months ago
I think that it's very easy to say "I Love You" but it's very difficult to maintain the love relationship. You should give some time to understand each other.
SneakyGuy London Escorts • 4 months ago
The "you should give some time to understand each other" idea is based on a false premise. It assumes that, at some point in time, feelings "freeze" into a constant that never changes. Unfortunately, people don't work that way. People change all the time. Sometimes, these changes can be profound and immediate. Sometimes, these changes occur so slowly that they're not noticed until the cumulative effect of several smaller changes coalesce into an epiphany.
Here's something to keep in mind. The idea of "marriage" comes from a notion that certain animal species mate for life. Human history has proven this notion to be false for humans. It wasn't all that long ago in human history when polygamy was the norm, not the exception. But even polygamy assumes a "commitment" based on that false notion. For example, wolves mate for life. This is a fact. It's also a fact that wolves "cheat" on their mates. But afterward, mates continue to stay together. Only one species I'm aware of seems to take cheating "personally" - the human species. But this is due to eons of religious brainwashing that taught us it SHOULD be taken personally (ie, "What God has joined together, let no man put asunder," from the traditional marriage vows). Other species aren't handicapped by this brainwashing and, therefore, don't consider the straying of mates as "cheating" to be taken personally ... but as just another fact of nature.
But if this isn't enough proof, consider the fact that 50% of all marriages today end in divorce. And also consider the fact that the remaining 50% who stay married aren't necessarily in a "happy" marriage. At the very least, this proves that any expression of "LOVE" is meant as a momentary expression ... that who you LOVE today may not be who you LOVE tomorrow. It also implies that the success of a long-term monogamous relationship is more a matter of "luck" than anything else.
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